There are times in life when it is easy to believe in yourself everything seems to be going your way. Home life is good, finances are solid, job is good, children/spouse/extended family all sailing smoothly through life. Of course, one could question if all this really produces serenity. And then there is reality. Serenity is a state of mind. It is a choice. It is a goal. It is something we all crave as move away from pain and toward pleasure. So why do we find it so challenging? I believe that the primary reason we find serenity so challenging is precisely because serenity is a state of mind, choice, goal and something we crave as pleasurable.
All too often we want our “feel good” to last indefinitely. And while I do believe that it is possible to live in a state of nearly perpetual serenity, I don’t believe that most of us can achieve that in this lifetime. More importantly, I don’t think that we need to and if that is our goal we most likely will miss the mark. No I think that we drift in and drift out of serenity and it is in the moments in between that we come to know serenity for all that it is. A delicious feeling of acceptance, sometimes joyful, but not always. Sometimes serenity arrives in the midst of great turmoil, stress and anxiety. The trick is being open to the possibility of that arrival… and trust me that can be a challenge. But when serenity shows up, embrace it and let go of it. It will stay, it will go, it will come back, it will visit you often if you let it. It will visit you often if you let it. But the tighter you try to hold onto serenity, the more elusive it will be. It will visit you less frequently if you become possessive or clingy and could decide to stop coming around all together until you begin to give it the freedom to come and go as it pleases.
What does this have to do with believing in yourself? Everything. It takes a belief in yourself to develop sufficient openness for serenity to come calling. You must know in your heart that you can cultivate enough love for yourself to summon serenity. For some that comes easily, for others it requires work and perhaps a leap of faith. What have you got to lose? You may find that with that new-found belief in yourself that you to are OccasionallySerene.